There was a family of nomads who were traveling. One child asked the parents “Are we there yet?” and the father responds “We’re nomads, we’re never going to get there.” The same story applies to us as humans. Stay with me and I’ll tell you why. I’m going to provide you with a series of questions and thought-provoking statements to help you understand your compulsive behavior(s).
First of all, the definition of compulsive, according to Merrian Webster, is: “caused by a desire that is too strong to resist, impossible to stop or control, not able to stop or control doing something, very interesting.”
When we are in the habit of compulsive behaviors, by extension, we are not in control over our lives. We deserve to have some degree of power, discipline, and control over our every day circumstances, in order to keep us grounded and feeling safe and secure in the world. When we lose control, we’re no longer grounded and feeling safe. Thus, it is my hope for you that you can understand these behaviors in order to live your most fulfilling life ever!
Now, consider the following and be really honest with yourself:
What is going on in your life that you’d like to run away from? How do you deal with not wanting to be in this place/situation/feeling in your life? Do you use food to reward yourself or make yourself feel better? Is there some destination you’re always trying to get to, a goal, or outcome? When food becomes our safety, we have a problem.
We often think “If only I were thin, I wouldn’t feel any pain.” Or my life would be so much better when I ________.” – You fill in the blank – look better, lose weight, what is it?
How do you deal with your emotions? What do you do when you’re experiencing unpleasant or undesired emotions? What are your coping mechanisms? Take out a pen and paper and write down how you cope. What makes you feel better when you’re not enjoying yourself or life isn’t giving you lemonade?
Then, ask yourself: “Am I expecting life to always be happy and peaceful?” or “Am I striving to be perfectly happy all the time, if not now?” Yes or no. If yes, remember that. And be honest!
Also, do you think there’s no good reason why you overeat/smoke/binge/starve/purge? Do you think you’re crazy for doing these things?
Sit with these questions and stay tuned. This week is all about emotional eating and compulsive behaviors.
Tomorrow, I help you break down your beliefs about life in order to more clearly see and understand your relationship with it, the root cause of compulsive behaviors and emotional eating.
Friday, I’ll be posting some amazing eating guidelines that can get you started in the direction of intuitive and mindful eating and healing your relationship with food.
And finally, on Saturday, I’m going to debunk the false beliefs you have about life that may be holding you back from peace, joy balance and presence.
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Jenna Pacelli is a Holistic Health Coach and yoga teacher at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. She coaches yoga practitioners and busy professionals in the San Francisco Bay Area and all over the world have more energy, curb cravings naturally, lose weight and keep it off without dieting, reduce stress levels, and live from a place of joy and authenticity. Her clients create lasting change and fully embodied health and wellbeing.
Jenna believes that by creating health and wellness at the physical, emotional and mental levels, it is inevitable that joy and a deep understanding of one’s purpose follow.